Ranjith’s Castle

Advices are given and expected at different stage of life starting from childhood. Most advice given are forced. By forced, I mean the advice is given to reverse the course of receivers action. The forced advice should not be taken. But they are mostly taken due to non exposure to the pros and cons of the advice given. If taken the advice can lead to bad results.

The first piece of forced advice is given from the parents to the children. How many of the parents will allow their children to play on the field. I have seen people dumping with a lot of books around the small kid to learn at the age it needs to play. I was watching “Chutti TV”, the channel for kids in Tamil. It  has programs that increases the interaction of the child and further teaches the kid to identify a lot of things. How many of you allow the child to watch that?

Take an example of parents who are both Doctors. They want their child to be Doctor, mainly the males, so that he can become the next Doctor to continue the hospital, they built yesterday. They don’t listen to what he is doing from childhood. They will start enforcing it once he grows a minimal level of understanding. Even if he is not willing to do the course they will get it out making him to learn the course in a private college or so. There are guys who have discontinued their course due to non interest. The same will apply to civil Engineers having own construction.

Advice should never be forced. It will always create disinterest in the advice forced.

Flow advice is the one given once the child selects the field. The right advice for the current career should be given. Exposing and directing him to do some of the higher studies once he selects his field is the best kind of flow advice people can give. Once again it should not be forced. Show him the options, let him select.

People won’t do this perfectly due to two reasons,

• their son has taken a course they don’t line.
• the parent’s don’t have much exposure to the course he has taken.

The second reason can be forgiven. But still the parents should make way such that the guy gets are good adviser for him.

There are people who are not able to understand them self for whom we can forced advice. Even at this stage the advice should be in sync with the person but against his misunderstanding.

cheers - Ranjith

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